I made my Top Ten List about Top Ten Important Information. This is a compilation of parenting tips, self-esteem building exercises, warning signs, and my favorite inspirational quotes.
10. Warning Sign that you or your loved one has a low body image: You check yourself in the mirror constantly or obsess about a body part that isn’t perfect in your eyes.
9. Favorite Quote: “As daughters of God, you cannot imagine the divine potential within each of you, Being a daughter of God means that if you seek it, you can find your true identity. You will know who you are. This will make you free—not free from restraints, but free from doubts, anxieties, or peer pressure. You will not need to worry, “Do I look all right?” “Do I sound OK?” “What do people think of me?” A conviction that you are a daughter of God gives you a feeling of comfort in your self-worth. It means that you can find strength in the balm of Christ. It will help you meet the heartaches and challenges with faith and serenity.” - James. E. Faust
8. Self-esteem Tip: Smile: Sounds too easy? A smile can change chemicals in your mind and body, releasing endorphins that enhance your mood. Smiling to others can start a wave of kindness to others and making others feel good always makes me feel better.
7. Parenting Tip: Teach your daughter that weight gain is normal and a healthy part of development. Prepare her for the changes her body will make during puberty.
6. Favorite Quote: “Do you suppose it matters to our Heavenly Father whether your makeup, clothes, hair, and nails are perfect? Do you think your value to Him changes based on how many followers you have on Instagram or Pinterest? Do you think He wants you to worry or get depressed if some un-friend or un-follow you on Facebook or Twitter? Do you think outward attractiveness, your dress size, or popularity make the slightest difference in your worth to the One who created the universe? He loves you not only for who you are this very day, but also for the person of glory and light you have the potential and the desire to become.” – President Uchtdorf
5. Warning signs of an eating disorder:
* Changes in eating habits, such as avoiding eating with the family.
* Defensiveness when asked about their eating behavior or weight loss.
* A tendency toward being a perfectionist or not being satisfied with themselves.
* Panic when they can’t exercise as planned.
* Comments about how they feel fat or are not good enough.
* An obsession with food, excessive exercising, calorie-counting, and reading about dieting.
4. Self-worth tip: Words are powerful. Create four to five descriptive words you want to be and say this statement several times a day: “I am ___(fill in with your adjectives)___”
Example: “I am energetic, kind, beautiful, smart, and thoughtful.”
3. Favorite Quote: “Looking in the mirror, do you sometimes wish for a different reflection? Some of you may feel that you are not as attractive and beautiful and glamorous as you would like to be. Rise above any such feelings, cultivate the light you have within you, and it will shine through as a radiant expression that will be seen by others” -- Gordon B. Hinckley
2.This is my number one tip for mothers: Never put yourself down in front of your daughter. Daughters not only model your behavior, but their own self-talk leads her to believe that if Mom—who is perfect in her eyes—thinks she’s fat, ugly, and not good enough, how much worse must she be? Or she might look physically similar to you and when you put down a trait she also possesses, she will feel you are saying it about her as well.
Never let her hear you speak negatively about yourself, but go a step further. Stop and change any of your own damaging inner dialogue.
1. I always end my presentations with asking the audience to take a pledge with me. It is to stop negative self-talk. It is to end what is sometimes called “fat talk.” Fat Talk describes all of the statements made in everyday conversation that reinforce the thin ideal and contribute to women’s dissatisfaction with their bodies.
Examples of fat talk include: “I’m so fat,” “Do I look fat in this?” “I need to lose 10 pounds” “I hate my thighs” and “She’s too fat to be wearing that swimsuit.”
Statements that are considered fat talk don’t necessarily have to be negative; they can seem positive yet reinforce the need to be thin. “You look great! Have you lost weight?”
So I challenge you today to take the pledge to stop the “fat talk” and all other negative inner dialog. You can make a difference!!