Top Ten List
I made my Top Ten List about Top Ten Important Information I would like to share.
10. Warning Sign that your teen is depressed: Loss of interest in sports or activities they used to enjoy, withdrawal from friends and family. Spending excess time alone.
9. Favorite Quote: “As daughters of God, you cannot imagine the divine potential within each of you, Being a daughter of God means that if you seek it, you can find your true identity. You will know who you are. This will make you free—not free from restraints, but free from doubts, anxieties, or peer pressure. You will not need to worry, “Do I look all right?” “Do I sound OK?” “What do people think of me?” A conviction that you are a daughter of God gives you a feeling of comfort in your self-worth. It means that you can find strength in the balm of Christ. It will help you meet the heartaches and challenges with faith and serenity.” - James. E. Faust
8. Eating Disorder Myth: Eating disorders are about food and weight. Obviously this is how eating disorders present themselves, but they are actually about deeply rooted issues such as: need for control, coping mechanism for dealing with a traumatic experience, low self-esteem, perfectionism, depression etc. Usually eating disorders are caused by a mixture of several of these issues which is why getting professional treatment is so important.
7. Resources for help: http://www.nationaleatingdisorders.org/
Also, most schools and colleges provide counseling and free services and support groups for their students.
6. Favorite Quote: “Do you suppose it matters to our Heavenly Father whether your makeup, clothes, hair, and nails are perfect? Do you think your value to Him changes based on how many followers you have on Instagram or Pinterest? Do you think He wants you to worry or get depressed if some un-friend or un-follow you on Facebook or Twitter? Do you think outward attractiveness, your dress size, or popularity make the slightest difference in your worth to the One who created the universe? He loves you not only for who you are this very day, but also for the person of glory and light you have the potential and the desire to become.” – President Uchtdorf
5. Warning signs of an eating disorder:
* Changes in eating habits, such as avoiding eating with the family.
* Defensiveness when asked about their eating behavior or weight loss.
* A tendency toward being a perfectionist or not being satisfied with themselves.
* Panic when they can’t exercise as planned.
* Comments about how they feel fat or are not good enough.
* An obsession with food, excessive exercising, calorie-counting, and reading about dieting.
4. Self-worth tip: Words are powerful. Create four to five descriptive words you want to be and say this statement several times a day: “I am ___(fill in with your adjectives)___”
Example: “I am energetic, kind, beautiful, smart, and thoughtful.”
3. Favorite Quote: “Looking in the mirror, do you sometimes wish for a different reflection? Some of you may feel that you are not as attractive and beautiful and glamorous as you would like to be. Rise above any such feelings, cultivate the light you have within you, and it will shine through as a radiant expression that will be seen by others” -- Gordon B. Hinckley
2.This is my number one tip for mothers: Never put yourself down in front of your daughter. Daughters not only model your behavior, but their own self-talk leads her to believe that if Mom—who is perfect in her eyes—thinks she’s fat, ugly, and not good enough, how much worse must she be? Or she might look physically similar to you and when you put down a trait she also possesses, she will feel you are saying it about her as well.
Never let her hear you speak negatively about yourself, but go a step further. Stop and change any of your own damaging inner dialogue.
- I always end my presentations with asking the audience to take a pledge with me. It is to stop negative self-talk. It is to end what is sometimes called “fat talk.” Fat Talk describes all of the statements made in everyday conversation that reinforce the thin ideal and contribute to women’s dissatisfaction with their bodies.
Examples of fat talk include: “I’m so fat,” “Do I look fat in this?” “I need to lose 10 pounds” “I hate my thighs” and “She’s too fat to be wearing that swimsuit.”
Statements that are considered fat talk don’t necessarily have to be negative; they can seem positive yet reinforce the need to be thin. “You look great! Have you lost weight?”
So I challenge you today to take the pledge to stop the “fat talk” and all other negative inner dialog. You can make a difference!!
Q. What is the hardest part of writing a book about yourself?
A. One would probably think it is the revealing of myself, the lack of privacy, but really the harder part was reliving the pain of the events. Because I’m a different person now than I was as a teenager (the time period the book depicts) it isn’t hard for me to expose that part of me because that isn’t who I am anymore in terms of the illness. However difficult, the pain and the exposure and everything is worth it if I can help others avoid the heartache of an eating disorder or help someone through it.
Q. If someone was going through a hard time, what would you say to them?
A. There is hope, never give up. I have a section in the back of my book written from the most sincere part of my heart to those who are struggling with an eating disorder. All my advice from one person who has walked that path to another is in that “letter.”
I also dealt with depression and suicidal thoughts. My advice for someone going through this is to know how important it is to tell someone what you are going through. Don’t hide it. Get help. There is hope. Remember it isn’t life that you want to get out of, but it is the situation and the way you are living that you want to get out of. You can change that. You can change your situation. Getting help is mandatory!
Q. How did the cover for your re-release come about?
A. I almost didn’t do a new cover because I loved my last one. I had the cover for this edition ready to go. It had an updated back cover with new endorsements, and “second edition” on the font cover. But last minute I decided that because I had put so much work into this new edition I really wanted to breathe new life and focus into it and make sure it was obvious that this was a different book in many aspects so I decided to go for a new cover altogether. I wanted to go for a white, heavenly feel. I was planning a whole new photo shoot but then remembered that years ago, for options, we actually did some of the photos with a white background so luckily I already had the photos and from there we let Photoshop work it’s magic to create the cover.
Q. What was different between your first copy and the new copy of this book?
A. There are two new chapters, several new photos, new updates, and a never before section in the back for parents. I also used a different layout and reworked the first ten chapters for the second edition as well as tweaked the entire book.
Q. Why did you want to make these changes to your book?
A. I wanted to make the second edition the best it could be and by adding new pictures it gives my readers an extra treat and glimpse into the time period I shared in my book. Far as adding the parent section, I want this book to help in many ways, so this is just one more area I thought I could help parents and loved ones of those who are suffering from eating disorders.
Q. Do you think you'll do an other re-release of this book?
A. I don’t know for sure, but I don’t think I will do another edition with this many changes and reworkings. I’ve very happy with how this one turned out and I feel I was able to improve in every area I wanted to. But I will do reprintings as I sell out of stock.
Q. Are you working on any other projects?
A. Yes, I have two actually. One is connected to this book, a project I’m working on for schools and other non-denominational institutions.
The other project is completely different. It’s about actual miracles that have occurred in people’s lives that happened while they served missions for my church (LDS). I’m collecting stories now. It will be a compilation of many peoples remarkable stories of miracles. I’m really excited about it. So if anyone has a story they want to share with me please contact me at firstname.lastname@example.org
Q. What do you hope readers learn from reading your book?
A. I hope they gain an awareness of how dangerous eating disorders actually are. I hope those struggling with an eating disorder realize they need to get treatment because it will not go away on its own. I hope people gain sympathy and understanding for those who are enduring an eating disorder and understand it is not a choice or something they can simple stop. I hope it helps others going through it know they are not alone and know that there is hope for a full and lasting recovery.
Q. Why did you want to write this book in the first place?A. I know it is part of my life’s plan. I didn’t want the pain and suffering I went through to be for nothing. I know there is power in my story and I want to share it to help others.
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